When bad things happen all you can do is offer support, pray, and sometimes take them a meal. Sites like this help volunteers coordinate meals, food allergies, dislikes and schedules without having to contact the family directly. It makes it easy to pick days that work for you, and not have the family get six lasagna casseroles in the same week. I always offer babysitting. Lots of time you can’t deal with what you need to do because you have kids climbing all over you.